Thursday, January 31, 2013

sorry i'm not sorry

photo via Amna on | caption by me
...for leaving my makeup on the bathroom counter. 
...for only liking one brand of pen. 
...for not caring that my car is messy. 
...that I drink coffee with my milk.
...that I prioritize sleep over blogging when I get busy. 
...that I prioritize spending time with Little A over absolutely everything. 
...that I hate winter. Period. 
...that I take a {timed} Pinterest break when I feel overwhelmed at work, because it really is the best way to empty your mind of everything. 
...that I still laugh when someone makes a fart joke. 
...for being sensitive.
...for having high standards and expectations for myself--and the same standards and expectations for others. 
...for not being empathetic towards people who refuse to help themselves.
...for having specific drink orders for Starbucks and Second Cup because if I'm going to pay $6 for a coffee, it's going to be made my way
...that I'm entirely ok with a woman choosing plastic surgery to alter a portion of their body as long as it's not a substitute for self esteem. 
...for being traditional. 
...for being compassionate, and loving. 
...for being completely over the "BLOGGING IS A BUSINESS" thing, because too many people stopped being nice when money got involved. 
...for wanting a large family, a dog, and a proverbial white picket fence.
...for not being able to finish books, yet still buying more. 
...that I always use those "spend $50 and save $10" cards that my favourite stores give me because I am going to spend money there anyways, so why not save at the same time? 
...that I talk a lot. 
...that I have a loud voice. 
...that I speak my mind. 

What are you not sorry for? 

Wednesday, January 16, 2013

sometimes I stamp my feet in a jealous rage

Image via LucyArg on 

Travel envy is a total bummer to have. Out of all of the different online envies that you can develop, for me travel envy is the absolute worst. I don't get blog envy, and rarely do I experience fashion or design envy. But travel envy...she is a cruel mistress. I want to be excited for people when they get to go on weekend getaways to fantastic places, but mostly I just get grumpy. 

Canada is a difficult country to travel in. There are so many amazing places to visit, but it's just so expensive.    The country is absolutely massive, so to get anywhere outside of 'weekend road trip' range you have to fly, but Canada doesn't have any low-cost airlines. Heck even Peru has three separate low-cost carriers operating domestic flights, but Canada has yet to jump on that bandwagon. A return ticket from Edmonton to Vancouver (a little over an hours' flight time) is usually $500; yet you can fly the same distance from London to Amsterdam for £65 all in--roughly $100 Canadian. 

So when I read about people dashing off to Paris or Rome or Hobart or the Whitsundays for a relaxing weekend away--and on a very modest budget, no less--I get a little grumpy. And more than just a little envious. It's something that I'm working on because obviously it is entirely ridiculous for something so small to turn me into a scowling child, however it doesn't change the fact that I come down with a nasty case of travel envy.

This is incredibly inconvenient for me, because the majority of the blogs that I read are focused on travel. Perhaps I am just a glutton for punishment. 

Tuesday, January 15, 2013

in defense of the zooey's of the world

Images via Maya on Tumblr

I like glitter, bows, lace, ruffles, polka dots, pencil skirts, pearls, sock buns, high heels, and A-line dresses. Pride & Prejudice and The Princess Bride are my two favourite books. I regularly listen to Taylor Swift and She & Him. I adore Anne Hathaway, Zooey Deschanel, and Emma Watson. I read wedding blogs even though I'm nowhere near getting married, simply because I love the romance of them. I'm girly, is what I'm saying. 

Having a love of lace or believing in true love doesn't mean I'm not a feminist, the same way that being divorced doesn't mean that I'm a bitter spinster. So why is the world so hard on us for showing our girliness? Why is it OK for men to post on social media about how difficult it is to pass a level on whatever video game is currently hip, but it's mindless and ridiculous for a female to post about an irritating nail polish incident? 

Quite frankly, I'm a little tired of the anti-Zooeyish movement. My gold-striped phone case does not make me a vapid idiot, my A-line dresses don't make me a slave to trends, and the fact that I sometimes take pictures of my most current nail polish shade doesn't mean that I'm a Stepford Wife. 

The next time you decide to {publicly} judge someone for how they choose to express themselves, or for something that they post on their social media, remember that they're probably holding back their own judgement over the fact that you have four kids with four separate women. 

To each their own, right? 

Monday, January 14, 2013

and then there was the time that my coworker emailed me an awesome photo AND IT TURNED OUT TO BE MINE

I'm probably a little over-excited about this...But the Chive included one of my pictures in their weekly 'well-put' round up

They didn't link to the original photo, which grinds my gears a little. It's called linking with love, and this is just another reminder why we should do it. It sort of sucks being on the receiving end of it! 

Regardless, it was an exciting moment during my otherwise crazy busy day week. 

Have you ever been surprised to find something you created in
an unexpected place? 

Tuesday, January 8, 2013

Get a Grip

Hormones are the devil, am I right ladies? 

Here is a list of the things that have made me cry over the last week:

  • Spirit in the Sky
  • a Charmin commercial {the part where Papa Bear tells Baby Bear that she only needs two sheets gets me every time}.
  • Running out of hard boiled eggs.
  • My cat knocking the bookmark out of my book. 
  • Forgetting to bring a straw for my can of mango juice. 
  • B {in his sleep} rolling away from me. It woke me up, and for some reason I took it incredibly personally. 
  • Spelling an email address incorrectly and getting a 'delivery failed' receipt. 
  • Gewurztraminer {this one might have been my fault}
  • Not being able to find the match to a certain pair of socks
  • When my cat pulled my clean clothes out of my drawer, and turned them into a her nest at the foot of my bed. 
  • When I tripped over my cat when I got up to get a drink last night. 
  • When my cat left a hairball in my slipper, most likely as retaliation for me tripping over her. 
  • When my cat woke me up for the fifth time this morning, more than an hour before my alarm was set to go off. 
  • When I found out that Outlook didn't send my 165 scheduled emails, and instead trashed them. 
  • Chipping my nail polish within 12 hours of doing my nails.
  • The moment when I realized that while I really, really, really want a dog, my schedule just doesn't allow for one at this point in time. {Damn you, 137km commute. Bonus damn you to me for buying a condo downtown}
What outrageously normal events have made you cry?

Monday, January 7, 2013

How To Succeed Without Really Trying {or just making a plan and sticking to it}

I'm a person that enjoys the details, so SMART goals just might be one of my favourite things. I find that the more specific the goal, the easier it is to gauge whether or not you are actually on your way to achieving it. I also love that the foundation for how to go about achieving the goal is actually laid out in the goal itself. Pretty genius, right? The other thing that I've learned about setting goals is that they aren't fixed points, so you have to re-evaluate them from time-to-time to make sure that they still make sense in your life. 

Here are {some} of my SMART goals for 2013:  

  • In 2013 I'm going to replace my current vehicle with one that is more reliable. I'm going to find one that is efficient, practical, and one that makes financial sense for me. I'm going to do this by spending time researching, test-driving, and budgeting for the right car.
  • In 2013, I'm going to focus more of my attention on my friends and family. I'm going to make the conscious effort to spend quality time with them. There is a good chance that I'm going to do this by spending less time on my phone/iPad/the internet/watching TV.
  • In 2013, I'm going to set myself up for success financially. I'm going to do this by utilizing a practical budget, spending my money responsibly, and by saying no to impulse and/or stress shopping.
  • In 2013, I am going to save $5000. I'm going to do this by consciously saving money each pay period and putting a greater portion of any bonuses into my savings account.
  • In 2013, I'm going to develop five skills through a combination of reading, practicing, speaking, and/or taking classes {as applicable}.
    • I am going to become more proficient with Adobe Illustrator {so that I no longer feel the need to keep the bible right next to me while using it}
    • I am going to flex my French muscles {with the five-year goal of speaking only French at home
    • I am going to learn to paint my nails without getting polish all over my fingers. {who said that goals can't be whimsical and slightly vain?}
    • I am going to master making flaky, wonderful pie crust.
    • I am going to master five signature meals {so that I can make them with my eyes closed}. 

What goals have you set for yourself this year?

Sunday, January 6, 2013

Weekly Wrap Up: Blog Meme Style


// Networking is a Contact Sport by Joe Sweeney & Mike York {I actually started this in November but then got sidetracked by the holidays!}.


// posts for two different blogs, and a personal project.




// about my upcoming trip to LA to visit my lovely AJ {dates TBA, naturally}.


// that Netflix had HD shows and movies available in Canada.


// that the rest of winter will be mild {or that it ends abruptly in February!}.


// an exciting new project with the wonderful Stefani of Miss Jo & Co that I can't wait to tell you guys about!


// my comfy grey sweats and my Oilers hoodie {this is a wild guess--I'm actually writing this ahead of time, but that's my standard Sunday getup}. 


// my Kitchen Aid mixer. I was a little worried that it would just sit on my counter and taking up space, but it's  reignited my love for baking. Also? I love that all of the parts are dishwasher safe!


// the ridiculously gorgeous house that B showed me on Thursday {no link just in case I randomly come into money in the next week and buy it for myself}. 


// a vacation. Cliched, yes, but it's been 8 years since my last actual vacation. I think it's time.


// excited about what 2013 has in store for me!

// 'Glibbing familiarity' is the main skill that I learned in university {this is how you know that I was in the faculty of Arts}.

// I probably share way more on social media, good and bad, than I should. But what I do put out there still barely scratches the surface of my life, because of boundaries and whatever. I love that IFB asked what their community members weren't putting out there, because most people don't.

// ...because clearly I love IFB articles, here's another awesome one about practical blogging resolutions.

// For all of my {bloggy and in real life} friends that are planning weddings: a fabulous post about what to do when someone steals your wedding ideas {thanks for sharing this on Friday, Joelle!}.

// I absolutely love how Erin crowd-sourced for her post on blogging advice, rather than just                                                                                          going off of her own opinion. {My favourite was to blog in your undies--Sarah, that is brilliant!}

What were your favourite 'clicks' this week?

Thursday, January 3, 2013

Always bear in mind that your own resolution to succeed is more important than any other.

I'm not shy about admitting that I'm a bit of a stress-case, and I've written about it a couple of times now. If you follow me on Twitter, you'll have seen quite a few of my stressed out tweets from 2012. 

Every time that I would come home and complain about what was stressing me out, The Boyfriend would just look and me and ask "...and why is this your problem?. It took a while (read: all year), but one day I realized what he had meant. I was spending too much time and energy stressing out over things that were not only beyond my control but also didn't even affect me that much. So I decided to selectively give fucks only when I needed to. The rest of it? I just stopped letting it bug me. 

Let me tell you, I feel wonderful! No longer do I sit at home and stew over whether or not So-And-So was going to do what they said they'd do. Instead, when I leave work I stop worrying about work. And when I'm at work, I just don't let the little things get to me. 

Since this revelation came to me so late in 2012, I'm making "give less fucks" a resolution this year. Or, sorry. I'm going to "focus on what is important and forget about the rest", but just know that this is code for "only giving fucks when necessary". 

What bad habits are you trying to break this year?

Wednesday, January 2, 2013

Not all those who wander are lost.

Even the years that I refused to make resolutions, I always managed to say "but I also want to travel more". I was bitten with the travel bug when I was young, and I'm really not that interested in finding a cure if I'm being perfectly honest. 

For the first time in a very long time ever, I didn't step foot on a plane last year. Not once during 2012 did I check in online, rush to an airport, sit sleep through the safety demonstration, or otherwise partake in airport shenanigans. This makes me sad. Very sad, actually, if I think about it for too long. So instead of thinking about it, I'm going to plan. 

The only place that I know that I'm going to visit for sure in 2013 is Montreal (which is wonderful, because I love that city very nearly as much as I love Paris). While I love the city, and it will be beautiful in May, I also am itching to go somewhere new. 

Here is a (very short, not nearly complete) list of things that I'd like to do in 2013 that require traveling: 
  1. Drink beer on a beach.
  2. Watch the sun rise (or set) from an airplane.
  3. Bask in the satisfying feeling of consuming my first Tim Horton's coffee upon arrival in Canada. 
  4. Have an airline hostess either a) wake me up for the safety demo or b) tell me that I have to turn my e-reader off for takeoff (DOESN'T ANYONE ELSE FIND THIS JUST A LITTLE BIT RIDICULOUS?!?!).
  5. Pack at the last minute and forget something that seems absolutely essential at the time of remembrance but turns out to be something that I wouldn't have used anyways.
  6. Earn another stamp for my passport. 
  7. Run out of space on my 10GB memory card (from one trip). 
  8. Spend time entirely outside of my own comfort zone "just for the experience". 
  9. Go an entire week without checking emails, texts, voicemails, Facebook, Twitter or uploading a  photo to Instagram. 
  10. Step foot on French soil. 
What are your travel goals for 2013? 

Tuesday, January 1, 2013

Books! The Best Weapons In The World.

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All of my life I have been an incurable bookworm. I would devour any book that I could get my hands on, and frequently I would get in trouble for staying up all night because I had to read just one more page. These past few years, for whatever reason, I've very nearly stopped reading. I continue to buy more and more books, and I start most of them, but the last book that I was able to finish entirely was Fifty Shades of Grey--not exactly my proudest moment, let me tell you. 

I want this year to be different. I want to lose myself in books again; I want to be immersed in different times and places. I miss falling in love with fictional characters

This is the first part of my reading list, a digital library neatly organized in iBooks; the second half of my reading list is scattered around my condo in haphazard stacks of paperbacks and hardcover books. This year, I am going to rediscover my love for reading books--and praying that I don't end up hate-reading horrible books again. {There might be a few trashy novels in the summer because that's what summer is for!}

What is your number one goal for 2013?

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